How to use feminine energy at work - and why you should not work like a man
Jul 18, 2025
If you are like me, your upbringing emphasized that, as women, we are capable of pursuing careers just like men. We are a generation of women shaped by the principles of feminism and the pursuit of professional fulfillment and equality. While feminism and the ability to be financially independent and advance in our careers are essential advancements, we have had to navigate a work environment designed primarily for men—an environment that constantly disrupts our sense of balance. Here are three reasons why, as women with a feminine core, we should not work like men.
We are cyclical beings
As women, we are inherently connected to the moon, and our nature is cyclical. Our bodies are designed to follow the lunar cycle, evolving and changing throughout the month. The week of our period, which energetically and spiritually aligns with the archetype of the witch, invites us to return to our center and rest (there is a full article about the cycle here). During this time, we naturally become more attuned to the earth, nature, and our deepest intuitions. It is important to recognize that it is impossible to perform at the same level during our period as we do at other times of the month. This is not merely a matter of fatigue or pain; it relates to how we interact with the world. What has often been overlooked is that our periods serve as an initiatory portal and a spiritual space for reconnecting with ourselves and the magic of the earth. If we can allow ourselves to slow down, we naturally strengthen our connection to our intuition and psychic abilities. However, the current world of work is not structured to accommodate our cyclical nature.
Men are not cyclical by nature; they tend to be more linear, and their energy does not fluctuate with the month. Men are more closely linked to the sun than to the moon. Women, however, can sometimes adopt a non-cyclical approach during specific periods. Many of us can function like men for a few years, maintaining the same rhythm and working style. However, over the long term, this leads us to exhaustion and burnout. Our menstrual cycle is one of our greatest strengths. If we fail to respect and honour it, we risk losing our vital energy and our connection to our bodies. This disconnection can lead us to gradually lose access to our ancestral wisdom and diminish our ability to trust ourselves and listen to our intuition. Furthermore, we miss out on the cycle of death and rebirth that occurs every month, which prevents us from integrating our small deaths and making room for new beginnings. In essence, we lose the ability to reinvent ourselves, which is one of the immense strengths of the feminine.
We thrive on devotion, not on discipline
If you open LinkedIn or YouTube today, you will likely be flooded with messages promoting productivity. Productivity hacks are everywhere, each one offering a new routine, action plan, or strategy for achieving goals. As women, we embody both masculine and feminine energy, just like men do. Our masculine energy might be drawn to the desire for accomplishment and achieving more. Being organized and disciplined can support us, but only to a certain extent. The issue is that our society is significantly out of balance. Men are already feeling overwhelmed by the demands of hyper-performance and self-fulfillment; just look at the rising number of burnouts and men lacking a sense of purpose. For women with a feminine core, the situation is even more dramatic. Relying solely on discipline does not nourish feminine energy; in fact, it can gradually deplete it.
When we act from a place of devotion, our actions become nourishing rather than feeling like obligations. The heaviness and rigidity fade away, allowing us to naturally engage in what feels aligned and necessary for our direction or purpose. This energy exists to honour a purpose. It is not about adhering to a strict schedule or relying on productivity hacks. However, when we operate from a place of devotion, we can still achieve beautiful goals and be highly productive. The key difference is that our actions stem from nurturing, creating, and bringing something to life, rather than from controlling or over-planning. Yes, this may mean that hyper-scheduling takes a backseat, but our bodies will finally be able to relax. The feminine spirit naturally wants to honour and devote itself to something—be it a project, art, a business, or a cause. We do not need to confine ourselves to rigid discipline that stifles our creative energy.
How to use feminine energy at work and in business
The first thing to remember is to let go of guilt. Our ancestors fought for the right to work like men, pursue careers, and achieve financial independence. However, the workplace was designed by men, for men. So, the first key point is this: simply making it through each day is already an achievement. The second important point is to learn more about our menstrual cycle, not just from a biological standpoint, but also from an energetic and spiritual perspective. The more we understand our bodies, the more we reclaim our power. Our menstral phase is particularly important. Pushing ourselves during this time lead to exhaustion that lasts beyond just a few days; it can linger throughout the entire month. This is why many women often feel constantly tired. Whenever possible, this phase calls for adjustments: consider working from home, taking naps, creating calm moments, avoiding long commutes, and engaging in less intense workouts if they do not feel right. Rest should be the priority. Yes, our performance may drop during this phase, and that is okay. The following phase, aka the maiden, brings the opposite: high energy and peak productivity. It is perfectly acceptable to reduce your to-do list and postpone tasks to the following week. To learn more about the maiden phase, check this article.
The workplace is changing rapidly. We have all become products ourselves, constantly pressured to upgrade our skills, learn more, and present ourselves as successful individuals. However, nature does not always remain in a state of summer; winters are necessary for balance. Our current work model fails to acknowledge that every person—both men and women—experiences internal winters. If your work feels constantly draining, it may be because you have relied too heavily on your masculine energy for too long. If this resonates with you, it is time to reconnect with your feminine energy. Take the time to listen to it and discover what it wants to birth in your life. The pace and process may differ from traditional models, but doing so will help you reconnect with your creative power and life force. If you own your business, you have more freedom in how you work. It is worth exploring how to structure your business around your menstrual cycle, allowing yourself space for rest periods throughout the year to recharge.
Lastly, if we operate too much or for too long in our masculine energy, it can create significant stress in our bodies. We are not designed to express ourselves in that way constantly, and this can hurt our nervous system. If you would like to learn more about this concept, I have created a free E-book called "Safe to Flow," which includes several gentle, restorative practices designed to support your nervous system.
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